I think genuine smiles are the most beautiful kind. When I say genuine, I mean the type of smile that scrunches up your face and turn your eyes into slits - the type of smile that radiates unrestrained happiness - a decidedly “ugly” smile. What’s beautiful about these clumsy, face-scrunching, eye-narrowing smiles is that they’re joyous, unfiltered, and vulnerable, so unlike those selfies in which we coldly calculate each angle and muscle placement meticulously to create a mask that is appropriately and moderately cheerful (but not desperate looking), all to show everyone that you are really, truly happy.
You can hide sadness. That’s easy to do, purely an exercise in restraint and people tend to blindly take your smile for what it’s supposed to represent. But you can never hide real happiness no matter how hard you try, despite your “ugly” smiles that are the natural outflow of your true, unguarded heart. Sadly, we when look back all we focus on is our beautiful, ugly smiles and we forget all about the things that made us so happy.
I find myself disliking social media more and more. I’ve come to realize it’s all a cry for approval - our profiles are our highlight reel, publicly proclaiming how fulfilled we are but missing, sometimes actively hiding, all the struggle and insecurity that gives depth to life. And that’s what it is - a facade, filled with selfies that all look the same, Instagram brunch dates, and birthday wishes that took all of five seconds to compose. In the end, isn’t it all just a mechanism for the self-validation that we crave? Yet we can’t tear ourselves away. At least I can’t. Social media is where we live our lives now, documenting events in real-time, sharing everything and nothing and living vicariously through the lens of a Valencia filter.
Our lives are utterly flawed and beautiful. We are utterly flawed and beautiful. Acknowledging this and being honest with ourselves is the most beautiful thing of all.
I want to go on adventures with you. I want you to show me what your life is like, the places that feel like home to you and the things that have made you who you are - the places your memories exist in and the places where you want to make new ones.
I want to travel and experience the world with you, to see things that we only ever thought existed through a television screen, far away from reality. To know that the world is so much bigger than we could ever imagine and to know that through it all, we’ll be together and love the way that we’re in love with the world.
The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed.Ernest Hemingway